The three insecure patterns are avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized. Avoidant Attachment: Understanding Insecure Avoidant Attachment Anxiety , Attachment , Self Development By Joyce Catlett, M.A. Attachment researchers have seen that some children do not have a secure attachment to their parents, and instead have the following three “insecure attachment” styles: Dismissive Attachment Style (also known as Avoidant); Preoccupied Attachment Style (also known as Ambivalent) and Fearful Attachment Style (also known as Disorganized). You also need to know which types of attachment are unhealthy so you can make sure that your child is better prepared for the future. You'll need to get help. ... Ambivalent: Those with an ambivalent pattern are often anxious and preoccupied. That's what positive forms of attachment will do, after all. Based on these observations, Ainsworth concluded that there were three major styles of attachment: secure attachment, ambivalent-insecure attachment, and avoidant-insecure attachment. The insecure ambivalent attachment style includes roughly 20% of the population (that's 6 children in the average class of 30). Style 4: disorganised-controlling These children often display controlling and manipulative behaviour. An ambivalent attachment develops as a result of inconsistent care, meaning the child has not experienced their parent as consistently available. How To Overcome Insecure Attachment. The way that parents interact with their infant during the first few months of its life largely determines the type of attachment it will form with them. Children who have been abused or neglected are more likely to show insecure patterns of attachment.

Such babies or children have had different reactions from their parent(s) making them unpredictable and to some degree, unsafe. You can overcome an unhealthy attachment style, but it might not be easy. These people may be viewed as "clingy" or "needy," often requiring much validation and reassurance. Insecure Attachment: Ambivalent, Avoidant, Disorganized. The main characteristic of anxious-ambivalent attachment is intense contradictions in the relationship. Children who are classified as insecure may show one of four patterns: avoidant, ambivalent, disorganised or anxious preoccupation. Researchers Main and Solomon added a fourth attachment style known as disorganized-insecure attachment. Anxious-ambivalent attachment. They never knew what to expect as a child. To develop healthy attachments, you'll probably need to improve your self-concept and change the way you think about others. Children in an ambivalent relationship are clingy, and (directly or indirectly) aggressive toward their caregiver often pushing them away and then immediately wanting closeness again.

Thus, the parents may react in an exaggerated, unpredictable, incoherent or simply absent manner, which taints the attachment relationship with the child. Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style: After a serious breakup with my lady friend, I couldn’t understand all the crap that was going on ; (“What I call, between my ear’s). Recently developed assessments of attachment in children and adults have identified attachment groups of older individuals thought to parallel the insecure/ambivalent infant group. When it comes to ambivalent attachment or anxious-ambivalent attachment, you want to discourage this type of connection. Disorganized: The disorganized pattern is often the product of trauma or extreme inconsistency in one's childhood. You'll also need to learn about your insecure attachment. Although virtually all samples contain some insecure/ambivalent infants, these infants are uncommon, comprising 7%–15% of most American samples. Like in all cases of insecure attachment, the root of this attachment style is having contradictory parents. For those with a predominantly ambivalent/preoccupied insecure attachment orientation, core feelings of shame have a more literal effect on consciousness, and the feelings of separation from relationships is fueled by the sense of being unworthy of love.